Back in the day my club looks were quite cute and I was wearing Gothic Lolita-esque pieces well before I even knew that the culture and style existed. I used to hate when people called me cute all the time, as it often felt condescending and made me feel like being 'frilly and ruffley' was looked at as being weak. Like someone was just patting me on the head. Yeah, I was just being an angst-ridden 20 something, who didn't quite realize how pro-woman I was and who needed to channel that energy elsewhere....and stop being so angry. Hahaha!
I'm okay with the word 'cute' and I often feel cute when I am wearing an outfit like I have on. I've excepted the fact that ruffles and frills and lace will be described by most people as cute, heck I use the word myself! Hehehe!
Even my new-to-me boots have a little ruffle on them, which are called kilties. I've been looking to get myself a pair of boots of vintage roper (or lacers, as I've seen them named) style boots for years. They were very popular in the 80s and 90s and are actually a Western style of boot, and a lot of times they are referred to as "Granny Boots".
I've learned over the years that it's just clothes and there will be days when I feel 'cute', 'strong', 'goofy', etc. and dressing to reflect those moods are OKAY! Life is too short to restrain yourself or get upset over the mundane, especially when we need to save our strength for the changing world around us.
Thank you for reading, until next time!!!